We’ve reached the stage in life when we are increasingly struck by bereavement. The principals of our Caring Class Network (CCN) agree that a candid discussion of how to overcome grief, carry on with life, and how to give and receive condolences offers solace and encouragement to all who participate. Accordingly, CCN will include the topic in the large Zoom sessions and in a new small discussion group yet to be formed. I have asked some of the widows/ers in the class to let us know how they are faring, and I encourage others to contribute regularly to Class Notes.
A thoughtful piece from Ted Beal: “Kathy and I talked candidly about her approaching death; she, with prescient advice, prescribed an ideal second mate. Her sage guidance helped me focus on opportunity amid loss. Losing a lifelong companion is not just an amputation of a soulmate but of everything she did to support our coexistence. A life of achievement could now refocus on beauty, joy, and creativity. As the architect of my future, restarting piano lessons allowed music to soothe the grief. When anyone asks, ‘How are you?’ I tell them candidly, directly, and in as much detail as possible, frequently with tears. Yet, driving home, sudden sobbing remains a surprise. Thinking I was prepared proved naïve. It is day to day, and I plan on years.”
Marilee Anderson: “Shortly after Sam died on Christmas Eve 2023, I received letters and emails from the ’62 class officers welcoming me to participate as a member of the class. This warm and comforting gesture was very important to me as a Dartmouth spouse and parent of Sarah ’88. I am very fortunate to have wonderful, longtime Dartmouth friends here in California who live close by. Jan and Phil Meyer and Barbara and Chuck Preuss are a big part of my support system. So the Dartmouth connection did not end with Sam’s death; rather, it continues in his memory. Many thanks to Charlie Balch, Al Cook, Peter Knight, Woody Chittick,and Alan Rapoport.”
I regret to report John Stephen “Steve” Reid of Sarasota, Florida, died on October 30.
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