“I left Dartmouth and went into the Marine Corps with a strong sense of identity, structure, and purpose. When that chapter ended, I found myself disoriented and unmoored—successful on paper yet disconnected from myself and unsure how to translate discipline and achievement into a meaningful life.”
“Like many veterans and high achievers, I was trained to perform but not taught how to metabolize change, loss, or identity collapse. A few years after I got out of the Corps and was working in technology, it looked to others like I was doing great, but I felt very empty on the inside.”
“About a year after my son was born, I realized I was not modeling being human the way I wanted to for him. I jumped into a healing journey, exploring modalities that would help me address the pain I was holding from childhood through combat and see what was possible. Doing that kind of work made me realize how it could help others.”
“Relentless pressure to achieve pulls men out of being present and into numbness, agitation, or polarity, with withdrawal on one end and aggression on the other.”
“I see the growing alienation of men not simply as a psychological issue. Culturally and developmentally, we suffer from a shortage of elders who can show us what it looks like to transform how we see the world, handle reality, and take responsibility for ourselves, our families, and our communities.”
“My work focuses on cultivating emotional and somatic capacity: the ability to feel, name, and stay present with one’s inner experience. It integrates breathwork, select wisdom traditions, modern neuroscience around nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and habit change. We’re cultivating capacities to meet life as it is now. I want clients to recognize that we don’t change in isolation. We change in relation to others and something larger than ourselves.”
“Every moment of all of our lives, there’s an opportunity to meet ourselves, heal from past trauma, and grow—if we’re paying attention.”
“I believe the work I’m doing is essential for the times we’re in. We won’t resolve our current problems by applying the same ways of being human that created them.”
“I never imagined this chapter of my life. If someone had told me in 2020 that I would ever sit across from another human and hold space for him to surface his deepest feelings, feel his deepest pain, and just be a loving presence holding all that, I would have said, ‘You’re crazy.’ ”
Notable Achievements
- Two-sport (football and baseball) athlete and history major in college; served in the Marine Corps (2008-16) with two tours in Afghanistan; awarded three Navy/Marine Corps commendation medals; earned M.B.A. from Suffolk University (2018); worked in technology with Dell and Shield AI before launching leadership coaching company Gone Beyond (2021)
- Lives with wife and four young children in Wilmington, North Carolina
